Modern Marriage - a Risk, Not a Reward
Let’s face it — marriage can be both a legal and emotional battlefield.
- A man can lose his property, freedom, or peace just for falling in love.
- In marriage, a man may never even know if the child is truly his.
- He can be legally forced to support a lifestyle he didn’t choose.
When Women’s Wants Become Men’s Legal Burdens
We’ve reached a point where:
- A woman’s desire for comfort is redefined as a man’s duty.
- Her “right to choose” often translates into his obligation to pay, adjust, or surrender.
- Her feelings take precedence over his facts. Her freedom is upheld — even if it overrides his autonomy.
This isn’t equality. It’s entitlement, protected by law and fueled by a culture of selective sympathy.
Absurd Expectations and Contradictions
Expected to Provide, Yet Denied Equality
Men are still socially expected to be providers and protectors, even in relationships that claim to be “equal.” Society glorifies women’s independence but still expects men to bear financial and emotional responsibilities without reciprocal effort or recognition. Meanwhile, men are denied emotional space — told not to cry, not to complain, yet expected to carry everyone else’s burdens without flinching.
Presumed Guilty — Even Without Proof
Men today live under a system where they’re guilty until proven innocent:
- A man can be accused without evidence, and society will side with the accuser.
- False allegations — whether in dowry, harassment, or paternity — can destroy lives.
- Even when proven innocent, men lose years, resources and dignity, while false accusers often face no consequences.
Romance Criminalised for Men, Celebrated for Women
The dating world is heavily skewed:
- Women exploring intimacy are empowered; men doing the same are often shamed or criminalised.
- If a relationship ends, the man is blamed, especially if she files a complaint.
- Natural male instincts, like observing or expressing attraction, can be labeled as harassment based solely on perception — creating a law of emotion, not evidence.
Legal & Emotional Entrapment in Marriage
Modern marriage can be a high-risk contract for men:
- Men can lose property, custody, and even freedom through false legal claims.
- Even after separation, they may be forced to support a lifestyle they didn’t choose — including children from previous relationships.
- DNA testing is not mandated, meaning men can be legally trapped in responsibilities without knowing the truth.
One-Sided Accountability in “Evolved” Feminism
What began as a push for equality now often demands male sacrifice without female accountability:
- Men are expected to adjust, accommodate, and provide, while women claim freedom from responsibility.
- If a man sets boundaries or questions the imbalance, he’s labeled toxic or abusive. This isn’t equality. It’s a system that protects one gender’s comfort at the expense of the other’s freedom.
And if he questions, resists, or sets boundaries, he’s labeled as toxic, unloving, or even abusive. This isn’t humanism. This is systematic disempowerment of men – backed by silence, protected by shame and executed by law.
What Modern Dating & Match-Making Should Include
Reproductive History Ledger (Voluntary and Secure)
A secure, Aadhaar-linked opt-in system where individuals can disclose medically verified events that impact future relationships, such as:
- Past abortions or IVF treatments
Legal Right to Transparency Before Marriage or Cohabitation
If a man is expected to provide and commit, he should have the legal right to request transparency on:
- Prior pregnancies and terminations
- Known genetic disorders
- Any medical condition significantly affecting intimacy or fertility
Right to Withdraw Consent or Responsibility Without Penalty
If such critical information was intentionally withheld, a man should have the right to:
- Annul the marriage, or
- Withdraw legal/financial responsibility
Just as a woman has the legal and moral right to exit a relationship if her autonomy or trust is violated.
It’s About Equality for Men
This isn’t about reducing women’s freedom — it’s about granting men the same dignity of choice and access to truth that women already legally enjoy.
| Today, a woman can legally | But a man |
|---|---|
Abort without a man’s knowledge or consent |
Cannot opt out once legal obligations begin |
Choose whether to marry or not |
Is often shamed for asking questions |
Raise a child alone, or compel the husband to pay maintenance |
Lacks the right to verified transparency |
You can’t call it equality if one gender controls the truth and the other bears all the risk. Autonomy must be mutual. So should transparency. And if a man chooses not to engage with a woman whose history he believes may not align with his values or future, he has the right – just as women have the right to reject men based on their past. That’s not judgment. That’s informed consent and personal agency.
Informed Consent Is Not Misogyny — It's Mutual Autonomy
Equality must be rooted in mutual autonomy, where both men and women are granted equal rights not just over their bodies, but also over their choices in relationships. Bodily autonomy cannot be gender-exclusive — if women have the right to choose what happens to their bodies, men must also have the right to make informed decisions about fatherhood, emotional investment, and legal responsibility. Relationship autonomy should be based on informed consent from both partners, meaning no one should be bound by assumptions, manipulated by social pressure, or trapped by legal frameworks that favour one side. True equality demands transparency, shared accountability, and the freedom to choose — without coercion, bias, or consequence.
- Enter a lifelong legal contract (marriage),
- Bear emotional and financial responsibilities, and
- Participate in a woman’s intimate and reproductive journey
- His physical, emotional, or psychological well-being,
- His ability to trust, commit, or plan a future, and
- His right to fatherhood?
Today, a woman can legally abort without informing her husband or the biological father. Yet, if she chooses to continue the pregnancy, the man is liable to pay maintenance — often without his knowledge or consent. This creates a profound asymmetry of rights.
Justice Must Be Gender-Neutral
| Crime | Punishment | Perception |
|---|---|---|
When a man loses his life due to a woman’s actions |
She must face capital punishment. |
Because no one—regardless of gender—has the right to weaponise emotions, law, or falsehood to take someone’s life. |
When a man’s future is destroyed – falsely jailed, humiliated, stripped of family, job, dignity |
The woman must face life imprisonment. |
Because what she broke cannot be rebuilt with an apology. |
When a man suffers character assassination, legal trauma, or false allegations |
Because attempted destruction is not empowerment—it’s crime. |
The woman must pay heavy financial compensation, lose her legal credibility and be blacklisted from public office or benefits. |
False accusers aren’t victims. They are not just individuals acting alone — they are part of a pattern that silences real victims, including innocent men. Their actions are not isolated; they are systemic and deeply damaging.
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